The following is posted because of the very special request of a very special member of our Ms. Cheevious Community. It’s someone who knows me and has been to my home, to see this very clip posted on my refrigerator. I wish I could say I wrote the wise words below, but I did not. A wonderfully insightful and wise therapist gave this to me when I was going through my divorce and rebuilding my life. I expressed the desire to make wise decisions, because as a “giver” I had grown up with a bad habit of filling in the gaps for many, if not all, of my relationships. I out-gave most everyone I knew, and I realized that things were out of balance. I wanted to rebuild in a healthy way, and this is what she gave to me. I found it to be so “spot-on” and profound, well, after my dear friend suggested I post it, I agreed.
The author is anonymous, though I’d love to meet him or her, as these words are golden to me — often — and can be a source of strength for us all, especially as we come into this wonderful time of year – The Holidays. It’s a time when we “givers” find it very difficult not to over-give, and it’s also a very fragile and emotional time for some, as relationships can be so sticky and sensitive. I think we all should post this on our refrigerators, put a copy in our brief cases, note books, journals, whatever. But without further adieu, let’s dive in:
Life is a Theatre – Invite Your Audience Carefully
Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives.
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.
It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of, or at least minimize, your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships and friendships.
Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on the path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the fton row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
If you cannot “change” the people around you, change the people you’re around.
Here it is as an image as well. Enjoy.
Know that regardless of the lack of attention you may be receiving from those you love, you are not the first, you are not alone, and there are many, many others sharing your experience underneath the very same great big sky. We have all been there, if we are not there now, and on behalf of all of them, us, we… I’m sending my love, warmth and grand applause for the you that walks this earth. Someone in your world notices. Put them in your front row.
Love you people!!!!! Mmmmmppphhhuuuhhhh!!!!
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