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Lessons Learned While Conquering the World – #1 Over-Committing is a Bitch

From my view, we’re all over-achievers.  If you aren’t, I’m quite surprised, and well, I’m not sure why you’re here. Stop now, and get back to your futon and bonbons, because this is where the shit gets real.  After much trial and error (and I do mean “much”) in my own personal life, I’d like to share with you some of the lessons I’ve learned on life’s road, while conquering and achieving great things (or not).  This is a multi-part series, because hell, I’m old.  These lessons may surprise you.  They may also liberate you. So, we’ll start on the topic of commitments and goals. Oy.

Lesson 1 – Over-Committing is a Bitch

1. I am not a machine.

Contrary to what I (and others) sometimes think, it is important for me to remember from whence I came, and that is from my mother’s womb, which means I am a mere human.  Much as I’d like to believe I can add more RAM or simply boost my band width in order to accomplish everything and anything I put my mind to, at all times, it is just not possible. I can dream big all I want (and I will eventually realize those dreams if I persevere but I may not realize them all at once) but no amount of dreaming will ever make me non-human.

The photo above proves I am mere human, and is for anyone who (in thinking they could do it all) ever tried to cut their own hair (raises hand). It’s also for anyone who lost their front tooth (or both) right before the holidays (raises other hand). It is also a gentle reminder to myself of how human I was then and will always be.

2. My batteries *must* be recharged.

I know, I say I’m not a machine, so it’s not clear why the next logical step to discuss is charging my batteries — an energy source for machines.  I may be mixing metaphors here, but there is a point. Though I tend to think I can pile the responsibilities on and take on new projects infinitum, I am always proven otherwise and am constantly reminded of my humanness. Even with these constant “reminders,” somehow I continue to forget this important fact. I know I must recharge the batteries after a big exertion or event. It’s common sense. Regardless of how true this fact is, I still have to remind myself of it. Jumping back into every project and the pursuit of every life-goal, just as soon as the doctors said it was medically “okay,” to do so after my surgeries in January, was not the sharpest of decisions. It took some time, but yes, I was recently “reminded” that I am not invincible. The world handed me my walking papers in a few areas…

3. My Goals Will Always Be There.

Sometimes we (I) need to give all or some of the goals a rest.  2012′s goals can easily be rolled over into 2013.  I’m not saying anyone should give up on their goals. I’m not saying my goals are unachievable.  I’m saying to give yourself a break and give them a rest if all the signs are pointing either away from those goals, or to other options. When every.single.thing and every person you know is now an obstacle to reaching those goals, well, it’s probably time to take a serious look at them.  And perhaps it’s not other “things” or people.  Perhaps it’s that all your own personal efforts to realize your goals have failed miserably, which tells you it is definitely time to take another look.  Try to determine what could be the cause. I’ve learned that sometimes, if I put those goals aside for just a season or a period of time, they’ll be there waiting for me.  My doe-eyed, dazed (from abandon), yet ready-when-I-am goals… they’ll be waiting… until I finally realize them.

4. Take Things OFF Your Plate, Before the Universe Does it For You.

Stack of Papers

I know when I’m over-extended. The signs are pretty obvious: 1) things have been stacking up and slipping through the cracks; 2) I’ve completely dropped the ball on something (or things) recently; 3) The exhaustion or ill-health meter is peaking; and/or 4) My bat-shit-crazy-bitch level has peaked and made even my closest friends cringe.  So, trust me. If you’ve received these subtle warnings, it’s TIME to cut back. These signs are gentle reminders, but they are a precursor to that loud, obnoxious, outward manifestation of your utter and complete demise if you do not pay attention to them…

5. Focus Your Energy.

If you are a POWER personality, you’ve already seen it:  the fact that the universe is a playground of opportunities. To quote a wise old man, “Your blessings can be your greatest curses.”  In this context, it means that every opportunity is not always a good thing. Develop a keen ability to hone in on only those efforts that will aid in achieving your goals.

6. Don’t do the “Bigger Better Deal” Flake-Out.

We all know at least one gorgeous, lovely, go-getter individual. They can be fun, full of life, effervescent, and magnetic in energy.  They can also be notorious for the “Bigger Better Deal” Flake-Out. These are the people who love to be involved in or attend every party, event, conference, project — you name it!  Until, that is, something better comes along. They get sucked in by the appeal of the new “thing” and over-commit.  It’s a pitfall of immaturity. If you’ve read this, you have no excuse now. I learned this lesson a LONNNG time ago, although I still find myself in situations that I must back out of after I’ve committed. It’s a process. But resist the temptation to involve yourself in every *good* thing that comes along, and see only those things you can effectively participate in as viable options.

These are just a few of the lessons I have learned while conquering the world.  I’m still working on that “conquering” part. Tune in next time for Lessons Learned While Conquering the World #2: Be the Person You’d Want Your Kids to Be – or something along those lines.

Have a fantastic week everyone!  Love, kisses, and lots of chocolate! (I’m on a low-carb thing, so your chocolate is in my dreams).

Love you people!!!! Mmmmppphhhuuuuhhhh!!!

xoxo,

Ms. Cheevious

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Ms. Cheevious is the alter-ego of Lisa Jey Davis (award-winning writer & author, publicist & health and fitness buff). Though Ms. Cheevious' brand has become known for its humor via the blog and social media, offering a lighter and brighter look at life… the website was actually designed as a precursor to Lisa Jey's long overdue book "Ms. Cheevious in Hollywood" (due sometime 2014) which promises to offer a fabulous, funny peek into what really goes on behind the scenes in Hollywood… a Hollywood with Lisa Jey and her funny “serendipities” in it. Think Lucille Ball meets Chelsea Handler meets the girl next door (with a little chocolate and vodka). It depicts with hilarity the innocent mistakes Lisa Jey made when launched back into the big, bad single jungle, as an unassuming single-mother in the City of Angels. It’s also about the beautiful, interesting life she led while her loving, incredible sons kept her grounded and sane – all amid fantastic events, new friends, parties and field trips, as well as the turmoil and heartbreak that comes with dating and single life. The blog is current-day and offers a peek into life after the Tinsel Town period, still zany and full of life. We're BRINGING MISCHIEF TO THE MASSES because believe it or not, every woman has a little Ms. Cheevious in her.

13 Responses to “Lessons Learned While Conquering the World – #1 Over-Committing is a Bitch”

  1. Eaeme

    You have but glimpsed the tip of the iceberg, but glimpsed well. Bucket lists bleed. Commitments coming from without can be an avalanche that leaves you praying for any prod that could simply mean escape and rescue. Build a trove of good memories and stay healthy. I once noted that Ms,Cheevious is “…revealing in a guarded way leaving the viewer outside of her heart wishing they could peek in.” Thanks for the peek.

  2. Neely

    This is a great post. It’s like Anne-Marie Slaughter wrote about in her recent Atlantic Piece on why women still can’t have it all (although I’m not sure women can really have it all; neither can men) – there are these superhuman women (like the new Yahoo CEO, etc., etc.) that the other 99.9999% of career women try to measure themselves against, and it’s just impossible to live up to what a handful of women can do. We’re all too hard on ourselves.

  3. Single Dating Diva

    Love this … I am so bad about doing too much and not taking care of me … love this advice. Now I just need to take it! Actually, I am … actually slept most of today. Me time!!! Refocusing my priorities. Thanks so much for giving me the kick in the ass I needed :)

    • Ms. Cheevious

      Ahhhh. sleep… I remember that! LOL You are so welcome love! Have a wonderful day, and thank you so much for the comment! XO

  4. Will

    Nicely said, Lisa. Love the design of your site too!

  5. Blueyess

    You nailed it! I am recharged now that I actually had some down time in LA.. Only opened my computer maybe 5 times (ha! Didn’t need to, had my phone). BUT I didn’t work, YAY! We all need to learn what we can handle and that it is okay to say no from time to time. Keeps us sane.

  6. Wakajak

    This was just too funny! loved it! Oh, and love your picture of yourself when you were “younger.” ha ha!

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